There comes a point on the spiritual path where you realize something humbling and holy at the same time:
You didn’t grow for yourself alone.
You grew so you could stand steady when others collapse.
Especially the young.
We look at the younger generations — their brilliance, their creativity, their courage — and we celebrate it. But we also see the cracks forming beneath them. Cracks they didn’t cause. Cracks they don’t know how to name.
They may carry anxiety like it’s normal.
They may carry loneliness like it’s expected.
They may carry pain without a place to put it.
They may have coping skills, but not anchors.
Community, but not covenant.
Language, but not foundation.
Spirituality, but not guidance.
And one day — sooner than they think — the storms of life will hit in a way they cannot outrun.
When that day comes, they will look for steady hands.
They will look for someone who has walked through fire and still has their soul intact.
They will look for you.
You Who Know the Dark Nights and the Long Roads
If you’ve survived grief that split you open,
if you’ve sat in hospital rooms with no answers,
if you’ve prayed through nights that felt endless,
if you’ve rebuilt your life after devastation —
then you are carrying a spiritual depth the young do not yet possess.
Not because they are unworthy.
But because they are untested.
Your survival has become its own kind of scripture.
Your resilience is its own kind of ministry.
Your wisdom is its own kind of sanctuary.
You are further along — not above, not better — just deeper.
And that depth is needed.
Prepare Yourself: Your Presence Will Become Shelter
There will be a moment — you may already be seeing it — when the young begin returning for guidance.
Not for church as they knew it.
Not for dogma.
Not for rules.
But for the steady, Spirit-filled presence of someone who has lived long enough to know what matters.
They will seek:
- truth that won’t bend for convenience
- love that doesn’t abandon
- boundaries that protect
- prayer that carries weight
- wisdom that isn’t performative
- faith that doesn’t collapse under pressure
And when they come, they won’t need you to be perfect.
They’ll need you to be rooted.
Because when their coping strategies fail,
when their independence breaks,
when their strength gives out,
when the world overwhelms them —
they will need someone who knows how to hold on when nothing makes sense.
You are being prepared for that.
You Are Becoming What They Will One Day Lean On
The young are brilliant.
But brilliance is not ballast.
They need elders who are steady.
Elders who are compassionate.
Elders who are Spirit-led.
Elders who have been softened, not hardened, by life.
Elders who can say:
“I’ve been there.
I know what this feels like.
And there is a way through.”
You may not realize it, but God, Spirit, and the ancestors have been shaping you for this role for years — long before you saw the need.
They have been strengthening your inner life so you can support others in theirs.
They have been deepening you so you can lift others up without sinking yourself.
They have been preparing you to be a lantern in a world that is rapidly losing its light.
Final Reflection
You are not aging out of usefulness.
You are aging into purpose.
The young will always need those who carry wisdom, steadiness, and soul.
And one day — when the storms break over their lives —
you will be the one who knows how to pray through it,
speak through it,
and love them through it.
Because you’ve lived through your own storms.
And you survived.